Last week this story about consuming alchol and sexual assault among KU students made the rounds. You can check it out by clicking the link here if you have not read or watched the video yet. The article is disturbing on many levels. In my opinion, it really highlights the unhealthy attitude college culture and American culture in general has surrounding consuming alcohol and sexual activity.
A couple of things stand out to me. One is the lack of empathy that the guys particularly have for their female peers. There seems to little concern about their feelings, health, and general safety. While they may “talk” like they would look out for them, their actions and attitudes convey otherwise.
Another thing is the lack of responsibility put on display by this students. Their attitudes are very much about living in the moment, consequences be damned.
And lastly, the guys seem to almost always want the night to end in sex. Their intent for getting drunk, paryting, “having a good time”, is to find someone to have sex with. If they don’t then the night is a bust. The intent of the women is not necessarily the same. This is extremely significant when it comes to consent. If the guy is getting drunk in order to have sex and the girl is getting drunk in order to have a good time with her friends, then their behavior and attitude about sex is going to be a bit different.
Environments like the ones on display in the article are ideal situations for serial rapists. A lot of vulnerable potential victims and not a lot of engaged active bystanders. I think that rather than telling girls not to get drunk or go to these parties we should look at why these environments exists. What is going on in our culture and on our campus that this is a normal Thursday, Friday, Saturday night? Why do the guys feel they need to get “black out wasted” in order to have sex? Why is the guy’s biggest of becoming a rapist not a cause for an alarm to go off and change his behavior?